When a loved one emigrates, it\u2019s not only them who has to adapt \u2013 family members who stay behind also experience challenges. AfriForum Worldwide realises that emigration is not only a life-changing reality for the child who leaves, but also for those who stay behind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Therefore, AfriForum Worldwide offers support through:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- articles and expert advice that illuminate the emotional and practical realities of emigration;<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- social events where families can build their own networks and share experiences; and<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- the Spotlight<\/em> newsletter, which helps parents better understand the culture, customs and challenges of their children\u2019s new country.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
When you better understand your child\u2019s new reality, you can be more supportive and have meaningful conversations \u2013 a bridge that makes the distance seem smaller.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The emotional journey of parents and grandparents<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
The first reaction to a child\u2019s emigration is often sadness or even resistance. However, how parents react influences the relationship going forward. By speaking openly and supporting the family\u2019s dream, you build a lasting bond. Grandparents experience loss in a unique way: it is not only the distance that hurts, but also the longing to be a daily part of a grandchild\u2019s life. The role of comfort, spontaneous visits or even just a simple lollipop from the handbag, now takes on a different form.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A connection over the distance<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Personal experiences show how families find ways to still feel close to each other:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Ans Pelser, who has grandchildren all over the world, says: \u201cIf they see you are making an effort, they will make an effort too.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Margaretha Kruger sends parcels for birthdays and enjoys using technology to share each milestone.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- In one case a gift parcel was stuck at Customs for days \u2013 a reminder that even love in a box can have its own obstacles. The end result was however still a precious bond that was strengthened when the gift finally reached its destination.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Empathy as an anchor<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
According to the anthropologist Helen Ellis empathy is the cornerstone of long-term relationships. Empathy helps families to recognise each other\u2019s challenges \u2013 whether it\u2019s a grandchild seeing his granny on a screen of a parent silently waiting for a message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Small gestures \u2013 such as a voice note, photo or even a family recipe \u2013 keep the feeling of being present alive. Food, music and memories become symbolic of being together, even if there are thousands of kilometres between family members.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Practical tips for parents and grandparents<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emotional adjustment requires time, but there are also many practical ways of making the distance smaller and keeping relationships alive. Here are a few tips that other families have found useful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Be involved and supportive<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Listen with an open mind when your child or grandchild shares news about their new life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Ask questions about their new job, the children\u2019s school or even the weather. It shows that you are interested and make conversations deeper than just \u201cHow are you?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Share your own experiences from back home, so they can still feel part of your everyday life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n2. Use technology creatively<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Digital platforms is a lifeline between continents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Make regular video calls on WhatsApp, Skype or Zoom. Even a five-minute call can make a grandchild\u2019s day.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Record voice notes or short videos of your garden, a family gathering or your favourite recipes as you cook it \u2013 grandchildren love to \u201cbe a part\u201d.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Read stories aloud with a book in your hand, while your grandchild follows the pictures on the other side.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n3. Establish routines<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Uncertainty over when the next communication will take place can create tension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Establish fixed times for conversations, for instance every Saturday at 10:00 (which could be a convenient time during the evening in their time zone).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Make it something everyone looks forward to \u2013 a virtual \u201ctea-and-chat\u201d or \u201cstory time\u201d.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n4. Create traditions over distance<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Family traditions don\u2019t need to disappear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Celebrate birthdays together by cutting a cake on both sides of the world and singing along during a video call.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Create a \u201cvirtual family book\u201d on Google Photos or WhatsApp where everyone can share photos \u2013 form the grandchildren\u2019s first school day to your new garden project.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Start an online game or family quiz that can be played regularly.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n5. Send gifts with care and love<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Receiving a parcel from South African often brings tears of joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Use reliable courier services and ensure beforehand which items will be allowed through customs.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Hand-made items, photo albums or a hand-written letter is often more precious than expensive gifts.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Include the date and a short message with each gift \u2013 it makes it more personal and meaningful.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n6. Stay involved in their new world<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Read more about the culture and lifestyle of your child or grandchild\u2019s new country.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Read local news or watch short videos about their city or country \u2013 it helps you to have meaningful conversations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Celebrate their new opportunities with them. If they get a new job, ask how the workplace is different from South Africa.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Show respect and interest in their new reality \u2013 it strengthens connections.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n7. Look after yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
The emotional toll of emigration affects the entire family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Join local support groups or participate in AfriForum Worldwide\u2019s social events.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Write your emotions in a journal or share them with someone who understands you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Remember: the better you take care of yourself, the more love and stability you can give to your family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\nThese practical steps may seem small, but over time they build a bridge between generations. They give your child or grandchild the reassurance that you are always there \u2013 even if it\u2019s through a screen or a package you send them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emigration undeniably brings longing and sometimes tears, but it also reminds us of the incredible ability of families to find new ways to hold each other. Love knows no boundaries or time zones \u2013 it always finds a way, whether it\u2019s through a voice note, a package or a smile on a screen. Our relationships change, but they never lose their value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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